Schoolwork: Teaching Responsibility
We're sure you want a youngster who finishes his homework, remembers his assignments, and turns in papers on time. When your child starts school, do the following:
- First: Make it clear that he alone is responsible for school performance. Homework, schoolwork, and marks are strictly between him and his teacher. Parents who feel responsible for their child's schoolwork, open the door for the child to turn his responsibilities over to them.
- Second: Stay out of homework. Always helping your child with homework, checking the finished homework or drilling your child in areas of concern, all convey to your child that you don't trust him. Homework is to teach children to think things through on their own. If he asks for help with his homework, help with a particular problem only. Focus on explaining the question, not on giving the answer.
- Third: Continue to show your child that you are interested in his education by asking about his school day and the books he's reading. Praise each report card. Go to parent-teacher conferences and tell him about them.
In summary, stay out of the middle. You have your job and your child has school. If you have any questions about school problems, consult your healthcare provider.
Disclaimer: This information is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice. It is provided for educational purposes only. You assume full responsibility for how you choose to use this information.
Author and Senior Reviewer: Barton D. Schmitt, M.D. FAAP
Last Review: 6/1/2008
Last Revised: 6/1/2000
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