Sleeping With The Parents: Toddlers And Preschoolers
If you are sleeping with your child and want to change it, here are some suggestions. As you've probably learned, children do not need to sleep with you, but they sure like it. And once it has begun it is rather hard to undo. You probably want to change this for the same reason other parents do: it keeps you from getting a good night’s sleep. If so, do the following:
- First: Tell your child the new rule. "You are too old to sleep with us any more. We want you to stay in your bed during the night."
- Second: If your child leaves the bedroom, return him immediately. If he does it again, close his door until he's in his bed.
- Third: If he crawls into your bed during the night, send him back. If he doesn't move, take him back without any conversation.
- Fourth: If you are asleep when he crawls into your bed, return him as soon as you discover him. Some parents simply lock their bedroom door and tell their child, "It's not polite to wake up people who are sleeping, unless it's an emergency."
- Finally: Expect some crying. Children always cry when they don't get their way, but sometimes the only answer is "No".
If you have other questions about sleep problems, consult your healthcare provider.
Disclaimer: This information is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice. It is provided for educational purposes only. You assume full responsibility for how you choose to use this information.
Author and Senior Reviewer: Barton D. Schmitt, M.D. FAAP
Last Review: 6/1/2008
Last Revised: 7/24/2006 7:14:34 PM
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