Spoiled Kids: Toddlers
A spoiled child makes unfair demands on others, doesn't respond to no or stop, and constantly wants an adult to entertain him. The spoiled child gets his way with whining and tantrums. Spoiled children aren't happy because they don't get along well with age mates or grownups. They also tend to be poorly motivated to work hard. The main cause is leniency and giving in. The opposite of a spoiled child is a disciplined, cooperative one who respects the rights of others.
If this is what you want, be sure you're doing the following:
- First: Provide age-appropriate limit-setting starting at about 4 months of age. Children cannot learn self-control without external controls. Apply limits regarding sleep by 4 months and regarding safety issues by 8 months.
- Second: Teach children a respect for parents' rights. Unless you do, they won't respect other people's rights. Don't let them interrupt you, when talking with other grownups.
- Third: Teach them to play independently and entertain themselves. Start this in small amounts before their first birthday.
- Finally: In your quest for quality time with your child, do not overlook his need for limits during your time together.
If you have other questions about your child's behavior, consult your healthcare provider.
Disclaimer: This information is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice. It is provided for educational purposes only. You assume full responsibility for how you choose to use this information.
Author and Senior Reviewer: Barton D. Schmitt, M.D. FAAP
Last Review: 6/1/2008
Last Revised: 6/1/2000
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