Teenagers: Teaching Responsibility
Outside the home, you must count on consequences for doing the teaching. As your teenager experiments, she will learn to take responsibility for her decisions and actions. Speak up only if your adolescent is going to do something dangerous or illegal. Otherwise, let the school of hard knocks take over.
- First: If your teen has bad work habits, she will be released from her job.
- Second: If your teen doesn't complete her school work and homework, her grades will fall below her standards.
- Third: If she doesn't practice hard for a sport, she will be pressured by the team and the coach to do better.
- Fourth: If her mood or attitude is negative, she will lose some friends.
- Fifth: If she misspends her allowance or earnings, she will run out of money before the end of the month. If by chance your teenager asks you for some advice, try to describe the pros and cons in as impartial a way as you can. Ask some questions that help her think about the main risks. Then wrap it up by saying, "You'll need to do what you think is best." Teenagers need plenty of opportunity to learn from their own mistakes before they leave home.
If you have any questions about your teenager's behavior, consult your healthcare provider.
Disclaimer: This information is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice. It is provided for educational purposes only. You assume full responsibility for how you choose to use this information.
Author and Senior Reviewer: Barton D. Schmitt, M.D. FAAP
Last Review: 6/1/2008
Last Revised: 6/1/2000
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